Jangan Kahwin yg 6

renungan bulan ramadhan,

buat peringatan kita bersama,insyAllah.Mudah-mudahan jauh kita dari sifat ini..

Pesanan Rasulullah saw untuk kaum Lelaki : "Jangan engkau kahwini wanita yang enam, jangan yang ananah, yang mananah, dan yang hananah dan jangan engkau kahwini yang hadaqah, yang basaqah dan yang syadaqah".

1.Wanita Ananah : wanita yang banyak mengomen itu dan ini. Apa yang diberi atau dilakukan suami untuk rumahnya tangga semua tidak kena dan tidak berpuas hati.

2.Wanita Mananah : wanita sebegini yang menidakkan usaha dan jasa suami sebaliknya mendabik dada dialah yang banyak berkorban untuk membangun rumah tangga. Dia suka mengungkit-ungkit apa yang dilakukan untuk kebaikan rumah tangga. Biasanya wanita ini bekerja atau berkedudukan tinggi dan bergaji besar.

3.Wanita Hananah : Menyatakan kasih sayangnya kepada suaminya yang lain, yang dikahwininya sebelum ini atau kepada anaknya dari suami yang lain dan wanita ini berangan-angan mendapatkan suami yang lebih baik dari suami yang sedia ada. Dalam kata lain wanita sebegini tidak bersyukur dengan jodohnya itu. Wanita sebegini yang mengkufuri nikmat perkahwinan. Dia juga merendahkan kebolehan dan kemampuan suaminya.

4.Wanita Hadaqah : melemparkan pandangan dan matanya pada tiap sesuatu, lalu menyatakan keinginannya utk memiliki barang itu dan memaksa suaminya untuk membelinya selain itu wanita ini suka ikut nafsunya. Wanita sebigini memeningkan kepala lelaki. Dia tenguk apa saja dia mahu. Dia suka membandingkan dirinya dengan diri orang lain. Suka menunjuk-nujuk. Wanita inilah yang menjadikan suami dulu handsome sekarang suah botak.


5. Wanita Basaqah : ada 2 makna:

Pertama wanita sebegini yang suka bersolek dan menghiaskan diri. Dia menghias diri bukan untuk sumainya tetapi untuk ditunjuk-tujukkan kepada dunia. Suka melawa. Wangnya dihabiskan untuk membeli make-up, kasut dan barang kemas. Wanita begini juga suka dipuji-puji. Kalau dia kebetulan menjadi isteri orang ternama dan menjadi pula ketua dalam kumpulan itu, orang lain tidak boleh mengatasi dirinya.

Kedua dia marah ketika makan dan tidak mahu makan kecuali sendirian dan diasingkannya bahagiannya.

6.Wanita Syadaqah : banyak cakap, tidak menentu lagi bising. Kebecokan itu juga menyebabkan segala kerja yang dibuatnya tidak menjadi, hanya tukang sibuk dan komen saja.

---Dicatat oleh Imam Al-Ghazalli...Wallahu'alam.

*taken from Tok Wan's fb

Wedding cake

cake ni kelakar ok.sabar jelah, boleh pulak ada drama sebabak atas ni. haha

its not in my 'a must have list'

but its good to have one though. 2-tier cake should be fine for me, dikelilingi oleh paper lantern deco..ouchhh.indah!

right after work i went to sugarflour at bangi, for the 2-tier cake it will cost me rm400++, fondant cake starts from rm250. so basically, even single tier sudah rm250. i did check on the design, not much they got. but they did mention they can suit your request.

for mini cake, with very simple design it starts from rm15, the more complicated it go..more you have to pay. definately!

cookies complete with batang macam lolipop and packaging is rm5 each.

so, this is my first time doing cake survey, i have no idea what is the market price. but it sounds pricey to me...

for the dummy cake, price is as much as you have to pay for the real cake. no such thing as half price. OK ADALAH BAIK AKU BELI THE REAL CAKE.AT LEAST BOLEH MAKAN.BAGILAH DEKAT SIAPA-SIAPA KAN?

i dont know, sekarang nampak kedai-kedai related to kahwin, i will sure want to stop by. atleast have a look. 5 minit pun jadi.

ok cantik

rasanya ni wedding blogger, but x ingat mana aku amek..but i really like it..

minamalis. fondant kosong, and add in ur own flowers/petals to give more impact.

nak sangat...

aku memang nak sangat kahwin dekat dewan,

macam dewan bankuet mbsa tu ke..tapi parents tak bagi, and diorang mahu di rumah jugak.

here are some of my concern dewan over rumah.

DEWAN

1. beraircond. paling penting, taklah aku masam aje nanti.
2. majlis nampak tersusun and kemas.
3. kalau hujan bagai-bagai kenduri tak effect.
4. ada dewan yang dah siap sound system.
5. bole buat slideshow... beshnyeee...
6. nak pasang red carpet pun senang
7. yang paling penting, lepas majlis tak payah pikir macam mana nak kemas dah

RUMAH

1. lebih meriah. saudara mara ada tempat melepak.
2. lebih mahal, sebab khemah sahaja minima 3k. tu pun dah habis cut budget. belum masuk sound system lagi...
3. concept majlis lebih santai.
4. rumah berselerak selepas majlis.
5. terdedah kepada kemungkinan dimasuki pencuri ketika majlis.
6.kepenatan yang berganda, before and after majlis
7. cuaca yang tak menentu. kalau panas takpe, kalau hujann??

Hari tu message mak, mak betul ke nak buat dekat rumah. nanti sepah..

Mak reply, takpe kita upah orang kemas...

Cuba lagii.....

Pagi semalam message ayah, dewan komuniti bukit damansara sewa rm800 aje.

dengan harapan dia paham yang memang aku ni berharap dapat kahwin dekat dewan. dia reply ringkas aje..

jauh.

huwaaaaaaa....

hari tu pernah berbual dengan Ayah, entah kenapa dia asyik ingat aku akan nikah dekat Masjid aje..aku ingatkan aku nikah dekat rumah, bukan ek?

dua abang atas aku nikah di masjid...so memang tak tau boleh ke nikah kat rumah. i mean, memang boleh la kan.. tapi macam mana ek?jurunikah nak layan ke nikah dekat rumah kalau hari tu dia ada banyak majlis.

kompius..

sesiapa yang tau, sudi-sudi share ye.

Anjakan Paradigma

I believe this is part of preparation being a good wife.

dah 2x i watched this tv talk show. it was totally interesting, i'm not sure what are the real baseline of this show, tapi due kali aku tengok, it was all about relationship antara suami and isteri. kenali pasangan kita. sambil tu, diselit-selitkan unsur-unsur humour and nasihat tentang syurga and neraka, ketaatan kepada suami and etc. seriously, i love it.

aku bagai kertas yang terkena glue when it comes to this talk show. lagi-lagi the host is Dr Fadzilah Kamsah. Penyampaian yang mudah, dengan contoh-contoh yang relevan. sangat mudah difahami, dan di relatekan dengan life sendiri.

one of the gist yang paling tertarik-menarik,

1.anggap pasangan kita orang baru setiap hari kita jumpa dia. so we will never full, and enuff of knowing him... =)

2. mohan dari Allah tunjukkan siapa pasangan kita dengan mata hati, bukan mata fizikal. thats normal, bila kita dah terlalu sayangkan seseorang, we tend to ignore semua yang buruk pasal dia, so mintalah petunjuk Allah agar kita dapat perbaiki semuanya, insyaAllah.

so, jom semua tonton:

Anjakan Paradigma
bersama Dato' Dr Fadzillah Kamsah
Astro Oasis
Selasa, 9:30-10:30mlm

bila dengar dia cakap, then teringat apa yang pernah terjadi between both of us... ohhh, camni rupanyeeee lelakiiii! heehee!

'Good or bad, hard to say'

Once upon a time, there was a king. The king liked one of his followers very much because he was very wise and always gave very useful advice. Therefore the king took him along wherever he went. 

  One day, the king was bitten by a dog, the finger was injured and the wound was getting worse. He asked the follower if that was a bad sign. The follower said, Good or bad, hard to say'. In the end, the finger of the king was too bad that had to be cut. The king asked the follower again if that was a bad sign. Again, the follower gave the same answer, 'Good or bad, hard to say'. The king became very angry and sent the follower to prison. 

  One day, the king went hunting in the jungle.. He got excited when he was on the chase of a deer. Deeper and deeper he went inside the jungle. In the end he found himself lost in the jungle. To make thing worse, he got captured by the native people lived inside the jungle. 

  They wanted to sacrifice him to their god. But when they noticed that the king had one finger short, they released him immediately as he was not a perfect man anymore and not suitable for sacrifice. The king managed to get back to his palace after all. And he finally understood the follower's wise quote, 'Good or bad, hard to say'. If he hadn't lost one finger,he could have been killed by the native people. 
 
  He ordered to release the follower, and apologized to him.. But to the king amaze, the follower was not mad at him at all. Instead, the follower said, 'It wasn't a bad thing that you locked me up.' Why? Because if the king hadn't locked the follower up, he would have brought the follower along to the jungle. If the native found that the king was not suitable, they would have used the follower. Again, the quote 'Good or bad, hard to say' stands.

 

The moral of the story:

Everything that happens in this world, there is no absolute good or bad. Sometimes good things turned out to be bad things eventually, while bad things become a gain. 

Whatever good things that happen to you, enjoy it, but don't have to hold too tight to it, treat it as a surprise in your life.Whatever bad things that happen to you, don't have to feel too sad or despair, in the end, it might not be a total bad thing after all. 

If one can understand this, he or she will find life much easier. 

Worth pondering over~

Worth sharing, worth reading.

The Mayonnaise Jar

When things in your life seem, Almost too much to handle,
When 24 Hours in a day is not enough,
Remember the mayonnaise jar and 2 cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class
And had some items in front of him.
When the class began, wordlessly,
He picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar
And proceeded to fill it with golf balls.

He then asked the students, If the jar was full.
They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured
them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly.
The pebbles rolled into the open Areas between the golf balls.

He then asked The students again
If the jar was full.. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand
And poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else.
He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded
With an unanimous 'yes.'

The professor then produced Two cups of coffee from under the table
And poured the entire contents Into the jar, effectively
Filling the Empty space between the sand.
The students laughed.

'Now,' said the professor, As the laughter subsided,
'I want you to recognize that This jar represents your life.
The golf balls are the important things - God, family,
children, health, Friends, and Favorite passions –
Things that if everything else was lost
And only they remained, Your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter Like your job, house, and car.

The sand is everything else --
The small stuff.

'If you put the sand into the jar first,' He continued,
'there is no room for The pebbles or the golf balls.
The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time And energy on the small stuff,
You will never have room for The things that are
Important to you.

So...

Pay attention to the things That are critical to your happiness.
Play With your children.
Take time to get medical checkups.
Take your partner out to dinner.

There will always be time
To clean the house and fix the disposal.

'Take care of the golf balls first --
The things that really matter.
Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.'